Checklist For Finding You Soul Mate

The Screening Dimensions

Dimension 1 – Good Character
Dimension 2 – The Quality Of Your Self-Conception
Dimension 3 – Watch Out For Red Flags
Dimension 4 – Anger Management
Dimension 5 – Obstreperousness
Dimension 6 – Understandings About Family
Dimension 7 – Family Background

The Core Personal Dimensions

Dimension 8 – Intellect
Dimension 9 – Similar Energy Levels
Dimension 10 – Spiritually
Dimension 11 – Education
Dimension 12 – Appearance
Dimension 13 – Sense Of Humour
Dimension 14 – Mood Management
Dimension 15 – Traditional Versus Nontradtional Personalities
Dimension 16 – Ambition
Dimension 17 – Sexual Passion
Dimension 18 – Artistic Person
Dimension 19 – Values
Dimension 20 – Industry
Dimension 21 – Curiosity
Dimension 22 – Vitality & Security
Dimension 23 – Autonomy Versus Closeness

Skills That Can Be Developed

Dimension 24 – Communication
Dimension 25 – Conflict Resolution
Dimension 26 – Sociability

Qualities That Can Be Developed

Dimension 27 – Adaptability
Dimension 28 – Kindness
Dimension 29 – Dominance Versus Submissiveness

Eattin' & Cheatin'

The way your man eats breakfast in the morning tells if he's cheating on you! That's the word from psychologist Suzanne Martsar, who studied the eating habits of men ages 22-65 and found those who cheat on their wives or girlfriends eat breakfast in "a guilt-specific way." Here are his five warning signs:

1. If your man eats breakfast slower or faster than usual you've got a problem -- When men cheat, they feel the most guilt first thing in the morning. One of the ways this guilt manifests itself is the speed with which he eats breakfast. A change in speed indicates problems.

2. If your man abruptly changes his breakfast menu, something's up and that something isn't good -- A man who suddenly asks for scrambled eggs or a breakfast steak instead of his usual pancakes, for example, is experimenting with food. Chances are, he's "experimenting" with another woman, too.

3. The way your man holds a fork, and what he does with the fork, can be damning -- Again, change is the key. If your man suddenly starts pointing with a fork while he speaks, for example, it's a sure sign that he's trying to "keep you at bay." In a psychological sense, he's using the fork to keep you from getting "too close" - and finding out the truth about his affair.

4. The way your man butters his toast can speak volumes about his devotion to you -- If he pays lengthy and undue attention to the toast, for example, he's probably trying to avoid eye contact - a sure sign that he's feeling guilty about something, probably his affair.

5. How your man drinks his coffee is an excellent way to determine if he's cheating on you -- Cheaters tend to start off drinking their coffee slowly, as if savoring something forbidden. As the coffee cools, they begin to gulp -- as if trying hurry and finish something before they get caught.

Oprah - About Men

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you CAN’T "be friends".

A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is YOU.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behaviour. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.

He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

NEVER let a man define who you are.

NEVER borrow someone else's man.

If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the ending. Compromise is two Way street.

You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complimentary. NOT supplementary.

Dating is fun... Even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house.

Never co-sign for a man.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Trapped Butterfly

I'm a butterfly,

trapped in a cage with four walls.

Those who hold the key won't let me out.

They won't set me free.

They expect me to be happy and to smile.

I cannot if I'm trapped.

They don't understand,

even though they say they do.

When I don't perform to their liking,

they say harsh words and close me in even harder.

My wings beat uselessly against the barsof my cage.

When I'm free, I shall smile.

Till then tears course down my cheeks,

unseen by my keepers.

Creative Song (22 Songs Into 1)

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Quotes Of Sex – Part I

It is with our passions, as it is with fire and water, they are good servants but bad masters.

Aesop (620 BC - 560 BC)

It's just human. We all have the jungle inside of us. We all have wants and needs and desires, strange as they may seem. If you stop to think about it, we're all pretty creative, cooking up all these fantasies. it's like a kind of poetry.

Diane Frolov and Andrew Schneider, Northern Exposure, Mister Sandman, 1994

A man can sleep around, no questions asked, but if a woman makes nineteen or twenty mistakes she's a tramp.

Joan Rivers (1935 - )

One thing I've learned in all these years is not to make love when you really don't feel it; there's probably nothing worse you can do to yourself than that.

Norman Mailer (1923 - )

Life is a sexually transmitted disease.

R. D. Laing

Quotes Of Love - Part I

Never pretend to a love which you do not actually feel, for love is not ours to command.

- Alan Watts

To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead.
- Bertrand Russell (1872 - 1970), Marriage and Morals (1929) ch. 19
The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.

- Carl Jung (1875 - 1961)

Love is everything it's cracked up to be…It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for.

- Erica Jong, O Magazine, February 2004

We can only learn to love by loving.

- Iris Murdoch (1919 - 1999), O Magazine, February 2004

To be brave is to love someone unconditionally, without expecting anything in return. To just give. That takes courage, because we don't want to fall on our faces or leave ourselves open to hurt.

- Madonna (1958 - ), O Magazine, January 2004

Love isn't a decision. It's a feeling. If we could decide who we loved, it would be much simpler, but much less magical.

- Trey Parker and Matt Stone, South Park, Chef Aid, 1998

But love is blind and lovers cannot see
The pretty follies that themselves commit;
For if they could, Cupid himself would blush
To see me thus transformed to a boy.

- William Shakespeare (1564 - 1616), The Merchant of Venice, Act II Scene 6