Eattin' & Cheatin'

The way your man eats breakfast in the morning tells if he's cheating on you! That's the word from psychologist Suzanne Martsar, who studied the eating habits of men ages 22-65 and found those who cheat on their wives or girlfriends eat breakfast in "a guilt-specific way." Here are his five warning signs:

1. If your man eats breakfast slower or faster than usual you've got a problem -- When men cheat, they feel the most guilt first thing in the morning. One of the ways this guilt manifests itself is the speed with which he eats breakfast. A change in speed indicates problems.

2. If your man abruptly changes his breakfast menu, something's up and that something isn't good -- A man who suddenly asks for scrambled eggs or a breakfast steak instead of his usual pancakes, for example, is experimenting with food. Chances are, he's "experimenting" with another woman, too.

3. The way your man holds a fork, and what he does with the fork, can be damning -- Again, change is the key. If your man suddenly starts pointing with a fork while he speaks, for example, it's a sure sign that he's trying to "keep you at bay." In a psychological sense, he's using the fork to keep you from getting "too close" - and finding out the truth about his affair.

4. The way your man butters his toast can speak volumes about his devotion to you -- If he pays lengthy and undue attention to the toast, for example, he's probably trying to avoid eye contact - a sure sign that he's feeling guilty about something, probably his affair.

5. How your man drinks his coffee is an excellent way to determine if he's cheating on you -- Cheaters tend to start off drinking their coffee slowly, as if savoring something forbidden. As the coffee cools, they begin to gulp -- as if trying hurry and finish something before they get caught.

Oprah - About Men

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you CAN’T "be friends".

A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is YOU.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behaviour. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.

He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

NEVER let a man define who you are.

NEVER borrow someone else's man.

If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the ending. Compromise is two Way street.

You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complimentary. NOT supplementary.

Dating is fun... Even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house.

Never co-sign for a man.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.